The death of a baby or a child is one of the most traumatic experience's any parent could ever have to face. The life of a bereaved parent will never be the same again. What was once their normal, will not be no more, as a bereaved parent they will embark on an emotional journey of loss and grief in search of what their new normal will be as a bereaved parent.
As a family member or friend it is natural to want to make everything 'better' but sometimes knowing what the 'right' way to act, do or say around them can sometimes be difficult. Just by being here and reading this page you have already taken the first step towards providing that much needed support to your family member or friend.
It's important to acknowledge that grief is a complex and individual process, and there is no one-size-fits-all solution. As a family member or friend, it's important to listen to and validate the bereaved parent's feelings and experiences, without trying to fix their pain.
Expressing empathy and offering support can take many forms, from simply being present to actively offering practical assistance. It may also involve respecting the bereaved parent's wishes in terms of how they choose to grieve, whether that involves talking about their child or seeking professional help.
It's also important to recognize that the grieving process doesn't have a fixed timeline, and the bereaved parent may experience intense feelings of sadness, anger, or confusion even months or years after their loss. Being a supportive presence over the long term can be a valuable gift to a bereaved parent.
Finally, it's important to avoid saying things that may unintentionally minimize or invalidate the bereaved parent's experience, such as "Everything happens for a reason" or "At least they're in a better place now." Instead, focusing on simply being present and available can go a long way in supporting someone through such a devastating loss.